The mind is a powerful thing. I think we’ve all heard this statement before. It wasn’t until five weeks ago when I really started to understand the meaning behind this statement.
Five weeks ago I started on a transformation journey. Not a physical one, but a mental one. You see I started working with a coach to help me with my mental mindset.
Why did I start on this journey?
For a while now, I’ve been trying to figure out ways to shift my business into another gear, preferably a gear where I’m helping people and making money in return. So what would that take? More Instagram posts, provide more freebies, offer more free classes, recording videos on Tik Tok? I was doing “all the things” but it didn’t feel like I was gaining any momentum. A friend of mine, who happens to be a life coach, said to me, “you can have all the strategies in the world but if you’re mind set isn’t there, the strategies won’t work”. I knew there was truth to what she was saying. But was I ready to take action? At the time I was ready to enrol myself into a 12-week group business program but I was curious about what one-on-one coaching, dedicated to building my mindset, would do for me.
What was the process?
I have a habit of not throwing things away. This habit led me to keep a business card that I picked up at a hair salon for almost two years. What was the business? Public relations, business, and mindset coaching. One day I finally sat down and emailed the coach to set up a time to talk. While I was doing this, the thoughts going through my head were, “Girl, why bother, you know she’s going to be expensive, you cannot afford it.” And, “your money would be better spent doing the 12-week program, save your money Girl.” Long story short, we connected, I liked her vibe, I thought about it, I stressed over it, I procrastinated but I eventually decided to invest into me, myself and I. I took the plunge.
What have you learned?
I haven’t finished my sessions with my coach but so far I have learned to put my vision on paper (i.e, I created a vision board!) and to put into habit the things that keep me centred, like mediation and prayer. One big thing I’ve learned is that I have not gotten over the self-deprecating behaviour of my twenties. That girl who told herself that she was stupid and dumb because she couldn’t get the grades she wanted was still inside of me. Honestly, I hated myself. I didn’t feel pretty, my skin was always breaking out, I didn’t have the hour-glass waistline that I wanted, I didn’t feel as smart as my friends or successful, I couldn’t find a boyfriend, and the list went on and on.
Now that I’m older, I’ve definitely grown into myself but my sessions made me realize that I wasn’t as confident as I thought I was. The biggest thing I’ve learned, so far, is that I need to let my old self go in order to give space for a new me. I still struggle with negative talk, lack of belief in myself, and fear but I’m ready to make a change. I understand that I cannot stay where I am and live the type of life that I want to live, one with abundance, peace and love - for myself and my family. Friend, the journey continues…